As part of Stonewall’s 30th birthday celebrations, we’re sharing the stories of people affected by a positive change to legislation.
What does LGBT equality mean to you?
LGBT equality to me personally would mean our family being viewed in exactly the same way as any other. My wife and I have two miracle children and we’ve had good experiences when it’s come to things like schooling, but so many others aren’t so lucky.
What made you want to share your story?
I wanted to share our story because there still isn’t enough visibility for LGBT families. I run the LGBT Mummies Tribe account on Instagram and now have 6.5k followers, which can be mums-to-be, LGBT women, single parents, allies, and to educate, share and celebrate.
We didn’t know where to look 7-8 years ago when we had our first child, so we’ve tried to create a safe haven for people to share their worries and their joys. It’s so important for people to see that families like ours exist – for children and for parents.
Tell us about your own personal star moment.
We’ve created a positive online community that connects people who might otherwise have been isolated. We had an event last year that over 90 people attended and met other families like theirs, plus it was totally free. That was definitely a star moment for us.
In terms of legislation, the repeal of Section 28 has made a massive difference to our family. If our children had been at school while Section 28 was in place they couldn’t have been part of a conversation about families – which is part of the curriculum – and our family would have been invisible. They’d be wondering ‘What’s wrong with my family?’, ‘Why aren’t my family being spoken about?’.
That’s going to make them question the legitimacy of our family, which would lead to ignorance and bullying. Instead, our kids’ friends have said things like, ‘You have two mummies, you’re so lucky!’. We feel really fortunate to be in a situation where our family isn’t disregarded.
What are your hopes for the future?
I want to see other families like ours in schools – there still aren’t many of us, at least not visibly. People are still unable to live openly because of ignorance and prejudice, and that affects countless families.
I want to get to the point where we can go to a supermarket as a family, and when one of our children shouts ‘Mummy’ and both of us turn, nobody bats an eyelid.
It still feels like we are constantly having to come out – at the doctors, at the supermarket, at school. I want to get to the point where I don’t have to think about coming out, where it’s no longer a big deal.
What would you say to someone who wants to support LGBT equality?
We have lots of friends who are great allies: they love reading the blog, they genuinely want to listen to our experiences, and have offered to help in any way they can. The spread of acceptance is so important, and allies can be invaluable in that respect.
They spread the word about us and our family and it ends up being like a daisy chain – it makes us more visible to others, who can join our community in turn.